I’ve been in a funk lately! Why? Because I am trying to control too much. And when I try to control too much, I enjoy too little.

Does that ever happen to you?! When you attempt to control the uncontrollable you automatically block yourself from the truth.  You resist how everything works rather than learn about it.  So here’s a simple challenge for all of us:

Instead of trying to make things work exactly the way you want them to work, let’s just watch them work today.

I bet we will learn much more about human nature and the inner workings of the world.  As we see things working without us controlling them, the way we see what we see will gradually change.  Because WE will gradually change.  We will begin to understand that things are a little different than we wanted them to be.  And that’s perfectly OK.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the mind is your battleground.  It’s the place where the greatest conflict resides.  It’s where half of the things you thought were going to happen, never did happen.  It’s where your expectations always get the best of you.  It’s where you fall victim to your cravings to control the uncontrollable.

You can decide how you spend your time, whom you socialise with, and whom you share your life, money and energy with.  You can choose to love and appreciate the people in your life for exactly who they are.  You can choose how you’re going to respond to surprises and disappointments when they arise, and whether you will see them as curses or opportunities for emotional growth…And most importantly, you can choose to let go of control and adjust your attitude in an instant.

So, instead of working so hard to figure out every last answer allow yourself to be guided to the solution in perfect timing instead of pushing so hard to make life happen every second, let go and allow life to happen to you. Just be.  Just accept.  Just appreciate.

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