“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

~ A. Quindlen

When we peel back all the layers of our beliefs, stories and thoughts, it’s only then that we can reveal who we truly are at our core, aka, our authentic self – we can’t get there until we get off of living on autopilot – unaware & just existing.

You see when we are born there is one thing that is true for ALL of us; we ALL have infinite possibilities.

We had no beliefs, no fears, no stories, no thoughts, no unconscious patterns – all we have are possibilities!

It’s not until our parents, guardians, loved ones, teachers, places of worship etc… indoctrinated their beliefs on us which creates the blueprint for who we are today… and remember, there is no shaming here, in most cases, everyone who loves/cares for us is always thinking their way is the best way.

But as I tell my clients, when you’re doing your inner personal development work it’s then you will see if your current beliefs are in alignment with your authentic self.

You can start to understand by questioning and getting curious about your current beliefs – why do I believe this? is it truth or is it because someone told me it should be as such or I should act as such etc.

And then start to question and get curious about new possibilities, desires, wants and dreams. Fear will try to take over as you start to recreate and that’s where safe, secure support & relationships are key.

Becoming yourself is a beautiful unravelling process that takes courage and compassion for oneself.

I promise you it’s so worth it; this deeper work is the foundation for living a life you love!

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