What do you need to be liberated from?

Kiran Singh

What I need to be liberated from? Everything!

  • Limiting thoughts and beliefs that were holding me back or keeping me stuck.
  • Old relationship wounds still buried deep in my heart, not allowing me to move forwards and find real love.
  • Decades of torment around food, my body, how I looked, what others thought of me.
  • Negative blocks around money I didn’t even know I had.

Everything that I didn’t even know I needed to be liberated from until I removed the layers. But first I had to descend, by painfully removing distractions and addictions. Through yoga and meditation practice. Through stillness. Through journaling. Through simplifying my overall life.

Beyond liberation comes the thing I believe we are all seeking most in this world, even if we don’t fully realise it. Peace. Just peace. And love. The longing is palpable.

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Unlearning is the intentional letting go of what we have learned and the openness to explore our own personal truths and be liberated from our past conditionings. It is the taking of a confident step from the comfortable and known into the ultimately freeing uncomfortable and unknown.

The goal is to move away from thoughts and beliefs centred in fear, scarcity, and lack and replace them with love and overflowing abundance. Conditioning is inevitable, but just because it is inevitable doesn’t mean we can’t challenge those belief systems and thought patterns and replace them with what seems more authentic to us as individuals.

Growing up, we are bombarded by messages from our parents, peers, the media, learning institutions, and religious institutions that we take on as our own truths when they are really someone else’s beliefs and not our own.

Society would not agree with some of my choices, but I am living out of authenticity, not out of other people’s expectations of me. Shake things up, and be a trailblazer! But most importantly, do what brings you joy.

To answer the title’s query, it might be useful to ask yourself some additional questions:

  • Do you feel free to be yourself?
  • Do you feel comfortable being yourself? Or have you yet to figure out just what that might mean?
  • Do you feel you “belong” to yourself? Or really, more to others?
  • Do you make every effort to meet others’ expectations?
  • Do you give to everyone but yourself?
  • Do you honour others’ wants and needs more than your own?
  • Have you ever been told that you overreact to others (whether it’s with anger, anxiety, or hurt)? Or perhaps that you underreact to them?
  • Do you experience difficulty “opening up” to others?
  • Do you feel there’s something that holds you back from loving others fully?
  • Do you find it hard to trust others?
  • Do you see yourself as undeserving?
  • Do you feel you’re not good enough – or that you can never be good enough?
  • Are you an “emotional sponge” (i.e., susceptible to others’ stress, or negative thoughts and feelings)?
  • And so on

Might you have responded Yes to two or more of the above questions? If so, odds are that some behavioural programs that may have been adaptive for you in childhood are continuing, however irrationally, to govern your behaviour as an adult. In which case this post may offer you some valuable – and hopefully, actionable – insights.

Now… What do you need to be liberated from?

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