“If you truly feel that self-esteem and motivation have to happen first before you can make changes in your life, then we’ll probably be sharing walkers at a retirement home as we talk over what might have been.”~ Shannon Alder
Is this you?
- you’re waiting to feel ready enough in order to take action
- you got into the habit of waiting for the right time
- you’re postponing what needs to be done
- you’re overthinking the right way to do something
- you talk yourself out of the opportunities that are right for you if they are outside of your comfort zone
If you can resonate with those, this post is for you! I’ve prepared some journal prompts to help you get things done.
Let’s dive in!
What if you don’t need to feel ready? What if you could take action right now?
I catch my clients saying ‘’I would do XYZ if I had the confidence to do it.’’ or ‘’I don’t think I’m ready enough to do XYZ.’’
Then I ask them, ‘’What if you didn’t need confidence? What if you could just decide to do the thing?’’ It blows their mind every single time.
I don’t tell my clients what to do. I simply offer them a different perspective that they didn’t even know existed.
We’re so used to this narrative that says that:
- you need the discipline to develop a new habit
- you need the confidence to initiate a conversation with someone
- you need to feel motivated to go to the gym and do a workout
I call bullsh*t on all of that. All those things are just distracting you from doing the thing you want.
While you’re waiting to feel ready enough, confident enough, or motivated enough to take action, time is running out. Time is not going to wait for you to magically feel ready.
No. You need to take the responsibility to do what you can right now. Otherwise, you’ll repeat the same cycle of needing to do something – procrastinating – feeling guilty – postponing – feeling even worse, and so on and so forth.
Let me know how the question ‘’What if you could take action right now?’’ resonate with you. My clients love it and it shifts their entire perspective from thinking they need some sort of a permission slip to tell me ‘’Oh, I didn’t even think about that!’’ to sending me an email a day later about how it went.
It’s such a simple question but it changes everything.
What uncomfortable emotions are you unwilling to feel right now that are keeping you from the life you want?
Another breakthrough moment right here.
Think about all the times you avoided having a difficult conversation out of fear of how someone might react.
What about all the times you wanted to start something new (a new hobby or a new business) but you were unwilling to feel like an impostor? So you played it safe and went back to your comfort zone.
What about all the times you wanted to share your opinion but it was different from others so you acted as you agreed? Nodding along and smiling – unwilling to feel misunderstood or even rejected.
So you don’t do what you actually want and you basically cut yourself in half.
You don’t allow yourself to fully be who you are.
You agree with opinions that are not even yours.
You don’t apply for jobs that you actually want.
You’re afraid to sell to your audience because you don’t want to be perceived as salesy and like you’re just in it for the money.
Think about it, what are you unwilling to feel? And how is that holding you back from showing up authentically and going after the life you want?