There’s a quiet ache that many of us carry – a longing for something more, paired with the habit of waiting.
We wait for someone to say yes to that concert, that hike, that late-night ice cream run.
We wait for a text, a sign, a companion.
We wait to feel seen, held, wanted – to feel alive.
But what I’ve come to realise in this beautiful, complex season of midlife is this: Life isn’t waiting for us. It never has, and never will.
The sunsets keep showing up – breathtaking, golden, unapologetically beautiful – whether or not someone is standing beside us.
The sea doesn’t ask if we have company before inviting us in.
The song, the book, the memory waiting to be made – they don’t rely on someone else’s schedule.
So what are we really waiting for?
My Turning Point
For the longest time, I hesitated. I used to postpone the little joys – and the big adventures – because I didn’t want to experience them alone. I told myself it wouldn’t be as meaningful. I told myself I’d wait “until…”
Until someone could go with me.
Until it made more sense.
Until I felt ready.
Until I had more time.
But something shifted the moment I went to Paris by myself, heart wide open. I didn’t feel alone – I felt free. I walked around Montmartre’s cobbled streets, visited museums, sat outside cafés sipping hot chocolate and eating delicious croissants – I had a good time with myself. And that opened the door to many other “firsts” that didn’t require permission.
Now? I go to markets, beaches, cafés, city breaks abroad and SPA breaks by myself – and sometimes, it’s even better. Because it’s not about who’s with me. It’s about being fully alive in the moment.
Here’s the Truth:
You think you have time.
But none of us knows how many summers we’ll get. The average is 80. Some get less (my Mum got 58 and my youngest brother got 33). Some get more. But let’s not waste them.
This isn’t a rehearsal. This is your one, wild, sacred life.
Practical Advice to Start Living Now
1. Reframe “Alone” as “Available”
You’re not lonely. You’re available to beauty, to experience, to growth. When you shift the language, the energy shifts too. READ MORE: 5 Ways to Spend Quality Time with Yourself
2. Start Small
Take yourself on a solo coffee date. Watch the sunset tonight without distraction. Walk through your local bookshop with no agenda but joy. READ MORE: A Life Update: The Power of Small, Intentional Rituals & Small things to do to improve your life
3. Make a ‘Live Now’ List
Write down 10 things you’ve been putting off “until”. Pick one to do this week. No more waiting. READ MORE: Do you have an experience list? & Have you heard of ‘Happy Lists’?
4. Romanticise the Everyday
Play music while you cook. Dress up for no reason. Light the candles. Make your daily rituals feel special, because you are. READ MORE: 6 Ways to live every day to the Fullest & Your new beginning starts today, every day & Your new beginning starts today, every day
5. Speak Your Heart
Call someone you love. Send the message. Tell them what they mean to you. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Now is enough.
Journaling Prompts to Reflect
- What have I been putting off “until”? Why?
- What would I do if I stopped waiting for permission?
- What does freedom look and feel like for me?
Action Steps
- Choose one thing you’ve been postponing and schedule it for this week – solo or not.
- Write yourself a love note – affirming that you are worthy of joy, fun, and magic right now.
- Share a moment on social media – not for validation, but as a declaration: I’m living my life now.
Call to Action
This is your invitation, love.
Go. Alone if you must.
Dance at the concert.
Watch the sunrise.
Book the trip.
Wear the red lipstick.
Laugh loudly.
Feel it all.
Because life isn’t paused – it’s happening. And you? You’re the main character. It’s time to stop waiting and start living.
You deserve it. And the world deserves to see you fully alive.
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