There’s a lot of buzz around the phrase “intentional living” or “living with intention.”
But what does intentional living really mean?
Why is it important?
And how can you live an intentional life?
What is intentional living?
The Cambridge Dictionary defines intention as “something that you want and plan to do; an aim.” In a nutshell, intentional living means having an aim for how you want to live your life. It’s about defining what you want your life to look like and having a plan to move you towards that life. When you live with intention you live following your beliefs.
- Your actions align with your values
- You make conscious choices about what you do
- You know WHY you are doing something
Living intentionally means making choices that get you closer to where you want to be and how you want to live your life.
It means you make decisions with awareness.
Decisions that have a positive impact on your life, both day-to-day and in the future. These decisions could have to do with the type of food you eat, what (or how often) you drink, how often you exercise, how you spend your money, and how you spend your time.
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
~ Annie Dillard.
When you live intentionally you do things on purpose
Compare this with living in auto-pilot mode. Where you drift along without a clear plan. Or you are distracted. You are busy. You do all the things. But you don’t feel as if you are getting anywhere.
The opposite of intention is mindlessness. Mindless consumption. Mindless spending. Mindless eating. Mindless scrolling.
Do you want to be debt-free? Fitter? Healthier? Have more spare time? Learn to play a musical instrument? These things won’t happen unless you are intentional about how you spend your time.
Living intentionally is not about wishing things were different.
It’s about taking action.
Actions that move you towards the life you want to live.
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Why is intentional living important?
When you live with intention you recognise that you only have one life to live, and you take steps to make the most of your life. You make decisions with more awareness. When you live in a state of awareness your self-knowledge improves.
You become aware of your spending habits, your eating and exercise habits, and your self-care habits (or lack of).
It doesn’t mean you never do anything mindless, nobody is perfect. It just means that you recognise when you are doing it.
When you start living with intention, you may realise that you don’t want a house overflowing with stuff that means nothing to you. You realise that you want to feel calm in your surroundings and cherish your possessions.
Perhaps you realise that you don’t want to spend hours of your precious time mindlessly scrolling through social media. You want to spend it with friends or loved ones, face-to-face while they speak to you. Or you want to spend it learning a new skill or hobby.
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How to live intentionally
There’s no one way, or correct way to live an intentional life, however, these steps can help you move towards living a life that is right for you.
1. Slow down
Rushing, filling your calendar with events, and days with busy work, is not the way to get to where you want to be. Being intentional with your time is. Slow down and give yourself time to think and reflect. Pay attention to how you spend your time. What is working for you and what isn’t? If something isn’t working for you, take steps to change it.
2. Define your values
Think about what’s important to you.
- Where do you want to be?
- How do you want to live?
- What would your ideal day look like?
Remember, intentional living is about living with purpose, values, dreams and goals that are important to YOU.
READ MORE: Values Clarified
3. Set goals
Once you are clear on your vision, craft a lifestyle that supports this by setting goals.
- What small actions can you do to move towards your vision?
- What habit changes can you make?
- How can you do more of what you love and less of what you don’t?
Goals will help you take action, no matter how small, to move towards the life you want to live.
READ MORE: 5 Ways to create smart goals
4. Take action
You won’t get to where you want to go until you start to take action. Small but consistent actions over time will have a significant positive impact on your life. Those small intentional steps you take each day will compound over time, to create a fulfilling life in line with your values.
“A good life is made of a series of good days, starting with today.”
~ Annie Dillard.
READ MORE: What is holding you back from investing in yourself and taking action?
5. Learn to say no
Living intentionally requires focus. There are so many distractions that can pull you away from what is important.
Learn to say no so that you can stay true to your values in the face of all the demands and distractions that come your way.
“Until you cultivate the ability to say no to the things that fill your life but not your soul, you’ll never have the space to bring into it the things you desperately want to say yes to.”
~ Jonathan Fields, How to Live a Good Life.
READ MORE: How often have you said Yes, when you really wanted to say No?
My Intentional Life
The following points sum up my values, aims and plans. Whenever I make decisions about how to spend my time, money, and energy I try to reflect on these intentions. I don’t always make the right decisions at the right time (no one’s perfect, right?). However, living intentionally helps me recognise when I’m going off course and helps steer me back to what’s important.
- I aim to be fit and healthy, at whatever age I am, with the freedom, time and energy to enjoy the company of my friends and family.
- I want to spend time in a cosy, organised and peaceful home, providing a calm haven for myself and Khushi in a sometimes noisy and chaotic world.
- I value experiences over things, so travelling is important to me – both returning to my favourite destinations and discovering new places.
- As an avid life-long learner, I plan to continue learning new things as long as I can.
- It’s important to me to support others to live happier, fulfilling lives.
- I recognise that self-care and time spent relaxing and recharging are important so that I have the energy I need to support others and pursue my plans.
What are your values, aims and plans? What small steps can you take to move towards the life you want?
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