Yes, you can have a beautiful future vision, but how do you want to feel right now, and how can you readjust your life in service of that? How can you infuse the things that you desire into your life right now?
…eye contact, smiles in the morning, food made with pure intention, clean drinking water, fresh air, Hello, Please, time to think about it, a chance to show them what you’re made of, a second chance, an education, health care – including dental, multiple orgasms, weekends off, eight hours of sleep, play before work, to change your mind, to say no, to say yes, to have your deepest needs met, to be seen, to be loved for who you really are and so much more – Oui?
“Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. If your goals aren’t synced with the substance of your heart, then achieving them won’t matter much.” ~ Danielle Laporte
Without knowing how you want to feel, you’ll pick the *wrong goals*. You’ll set goals based on what you see other people achieving, on how you see other people living, on the expectations that others have of you, on society’s expectations of you ~ you won’t be able to sustain motivation (because 0 internal motivation exists ~ the only motivation that matters) and they won’t go as planned.
*Don’t set any goals until you have clarity around how you feel.*
Sometimes it can take time until you have clarity, it can take some journaling, reflecting and experimenting, but don’t let yourself move forward until you have a strong sense of understanding around what can generate the feeling that you want to bring into your life.
Something magical happens when you focus on creating your core desired feelings:
- You remember your light, your true nature, your source – the life source that connects us all.
- You use your preferred feelings as a guidance system for making choices and for being more present and alive.
- You are able to access comfort and clarity during painful times.
- You accentuate the positive aspects of your life, while still honouring, and not invalidating, the negative parts that you want to change.
“Get clear on what you most want out of life and plan to make it happen.”
It’s important to get clear on what you already have in your life, what you are grateful for, and where you are dissatisfied. You’ll get clear on the root of your desire and create a map of how you desire to feel in five areas of your life.
The 5 areas of your life are:
- Lifestyle + Livelihood
- Creativity + Learning
- Body + Wellness
- Relationships + Society
- Essence + Spirituality
When you’re planning your yearly goals, holiday plans, building your career, you’ll have your core desired feelings in mind.
When you’re choosing whom to invite, how to react, what to give, you’ll have your core desired feelings in mind.
When you’re in pain, when you want things to be different, when choosing how to act, you’ll have your core desired feelings in mind.
When you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning, you’ll have your core desired feelings in mind.